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Post by kas on Jan 26, 2019 17:49:36 GMT
Alan's somewhere near Birmingham playing with his friends at some car show or other. Is it wrong that I'm happy as a pig in shit here at home on my own, chilling in front of the telly with a bacon sarnie?
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Post by snigsby on Jan 27, 2019 10:22:15 GMT
Not at all! Enjoy your "me" time
But I can tell you, when every day is home alone with a bacon sarnie and the telly - it palls................
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Post by snigsby on Jan 27, 2019 12:34:00 GMT
Actually, went off and had a cuppa and thought about this - I can see how it has happened to me but I never imagined that I would end up,aged 68, with no family and no significant other. No real live friends either,which is why my online pals are so important to me.
Sometimes I wish I came from a background where the aunties and the grannies would put their heads together and find me a decent bloke - I am sure he exists, but I am too old and knackered to find him myself!
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Post by tommytrot on Jan 27, 2019 12:41:21 GMT
Yes I agree occasional alone time in great, but it's when the norm it sucks big time, the dogs help but conversation is a bit one sided!!
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Post by snigsby on Jan 27, 2019 12:43:01 GMT
I talk to the dog all the time! I give her a running commentary on my day - daft,because she is there at my side,experiencing it with me I sing wee songs to her as well.
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Post by kas on Jan 27, 2019 12:50:00 GMT
I lived alone for about 9 years. There's so many pros and cons really. I do kind of like my own space and I think that Alan and I work because we aren't in each other's pockets. But yes, companionship is a wonderful thing. The support of an on-line community was one of the reasons I re-started this forum. So many friendships forged, that in some cases led to people meeting in person. We need more members to keep it going, so if you want to invite anyone please do. :-)
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Post by snigsby on Jan 27, 2019 13:11:36 GMT
Currently, I am in a phase of "I hate all people. Only animals and those few special folk are allowed in." so not likely to find anyone to join. But if I do,I'll encourage 'em!.
Have to say that, without the friendship and support of my online friends, I would not have coped at all in the last few years - especially since I lost Kofi in 2006, that really knocked me off balance, never really recovered.
Without Kas and Janet in particular, I think I would have given up horses altogether. They and the gentle Seamus, were what made me go out and find Smokey and end up with our 100 miles across the Cairngorms last summer! No doubt about it
and I am starting to try again with Khan. I'm hoping that I have learned from Smokey and also that time has taken a wee bit of the "spook" out of him lol so you will all be pestered with updates/questions/demands for encouragement
Now I just need that group of aunties and grannies to find me that nice chap ROFL
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Post by tommytrot on Jan 27, 2019 19:05:37 GMT
Get to the back of the queue, I have more chance of teaching Tom flying changes than finding a nice chap 🤣🤣🤣🤣
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Post by pearlieking1977 on Jan 30, 2019 11:26:37 GMT
Well- since I've gotten divorced from my *delightful* ex husband, I lived on my own for over two years. I do have a partner (who is fab, but younger) and sometimes he gets a bit clingy. However, we've had a few straight discussions and now he understands value in 'alone time'. I am lucky that I have the means to still have my horses otherwise, Snigs- I'd be the same as you lol Xx
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Post by nicxf on Jan 31, 2019 7:00:26 GMT
Perhaps I have a slightly different perspective on it than you lot. As an Asexual I've realised I'm far happier living alone. I find people too complicated. However, as Snigs says, it does pail at times. Having friends - online and locally - is vital for my sanity as it's very easy to slip into depression when you have nobody to talk things over with (massive thanks to Kas for calling to check up on me the other week, that made such a difference!). I get about 8-9 hours human contact a week. Wasn't so bad when Tess,my dog, was younger but as she's got old she just wants to be alone. Which is fine, but it leaves me alone too. I've been half keeping an eye out for a suitable rescue locally, to see if she could be persuaded to share our home with another dog that might actully want to cuddle me!
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Post by kas on Jan 31, 2019 18:36:28 GMT
That wouldn't be a bad idea Nic. Maybe they would arrange a visit or two first if you find one?
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Post by nicxf on Jan 31, 2019 19:07:23 GMT
That wouldn't be a bad idea Nic. Maybe they would arrange a visit or two first if you find one? Yeah, that's what I was thinking. There are two or three rescue centres within 5 miles so I'm keeping an eye on their websites for potential dogs. Thinking I could offer to foster if madam seems ok with another dog around, then I'd have a chance to see if I can cope with two of them.
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Post by snigsby on Feb 17, 2019 15:29:48 GMT
Being a nosy bugger, I had to go and look up Asexual to find out what it means!!
I can't remember the last time I felt sexually attracted to anyone but I think that would probably change if I met the right person. What did happen to me as I got older was that I became really aware of how people seemed to only be attracted to me if sex was very near the top of the agenda.
Think it was John Betjman who reputedly said on his deathbed,when asked if he had any regrets,replied "not enough sex". Well, I could go along with that but ONLY if it was the right person!!!
I would like to meet someone who wanted to be with me - the inner person - not just the sultry,pouting,irresistable exterior LOL
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Post by tommytrot on Feb 17, 2019 19:34:46 GMT
Yes Snigsby I can totally relate to that, thinking of getting a tshirt made saying “fed up not hard up!”
I’m sure I would find the energy from somewhere should the suitable situation arise 😊 until then it’s back to window shopping, currently perusing, Poldark season 3 is now on Netflix, Jamie from Outlander on Prime, jury is still out on David Gandy, really easy on the eye but I have never heard him talk much .... but at times conversation can be over rated 🤣
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